Years ago, I sat in on a family conference with a nephrologist as we discussed my mother’s condition and prognosis. As it happens, the nephrologist was covering for his partner, the regular doc. Unlike the very “up” regular guy, our substitute was rather dour.
The psychologist (in training at the time) was devastated. She was reading the emotions of the dour guy compared to his partner.
My Dad and I just shrugged at the end of the conference – there was very little new.
But it was fascinating to see how we read the information in our different ways. The psychologist in training didn’t yet understand that the information was more important than the delivery; my dad and I were/are engineers, used to looking only at information.
So it was with a sense of familiarity that I read Andrew Sullivan’s summation of Trump’s speech to Congress earlier this week:
After the terror, the smile. It suddenly beams, and the voice calms. You feel the warmth again and are momentarily overcome with gratitude and relief. Suddenly, all the man’s malice and rage and narcissism disappear and the world turns suddenly normal. And you thrill to that normality. It’s what you’ve craved for so long, and been denied for so long. You forgive. You hope. You wonder if all the fear and dread you felt only a few moments ago were just in your imagination.
I didn’t watch it – my excuse, reasonable or not, is that so many falsehoods come out of his mouth that I cannot keep up, and without accurate information, how can you possibly hope to evaluate what he is saying? But I say this only for full disclosure; my conclusion remains the same – those trying to read emotions as a primary source are, in general, always at risk of being misled. So he seemed Presidential – is that important when he’s lying? We already saw he lied in preparation for the speech – so in retrospect, why write something nice about him, especially based on an irrelevancy such as his delivery of a speech? This country exists on criticism and self-improvement, not on appearances, to be brutally honest, and so far Trump is not improving.
But what those in the press need to remember is that they’re not only reporters, they are also exemplars. Don’t write a complimentary column because he managed to read a teleprompter in a pleasant manner – no Oscar is given for that. Nor is this about Oscars, it’s about performing in the biggest arena around. So the press should say, well, we fact checked him and he lied more than once a minute – if it’s so. And then acknowledge that he was pleasant, rather than incoherently angry for a change – and point out how that changes nothing important. Then note how he lied to the press just to gain a momentary advantage – and rake him over the coals. Because this electorate needs to do more than read the emotions of someone making promises to them – they need to step up and evaluate the plans put forth, and if there’s no plan – there’s no future.